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Rejection: A Man's Silent Story

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        From the beginning, God’s display of love was given to us through freewill which created the environment for option of rejection. Rejection being defined as (the dismissing or refusing of a proposal or an idea, idea, etc.). However, rejection requires vulnerability an attribute that men, in particular, find difficult to embrace and not frequently done which opens the possibility of even more hurt and rejection. We all want to feel like we are loved, to feel like we belong, but rejection can be embarrassing and make us feel like we’re not wanted or that we aren’t as valuable after all, this I've personally had difficulty dealing with.

     For me, it was hard not to take rejection so personal and move on whether it was rejection from being a part of something, rejection from employment, and my leasts favorite form of rejection from “relationships.” Whenever I felt rejected after talking to a woman I was interested in, so many questions would rush through my mind, like “was it my approach? My appearance? What about me wasn’t not good enough? How come love don’t love me?”

      One thing I am sure of is every guy has these thoughts and ponders them at one point or another. These thoughts made me feel inadequate, which led to other thoughts like 'maybe I should change to be the type of guy a woman is interested in.' Yet in the midst of my feelings, I would read God's word and see how many times Jesus was rejected by His creation and still moved forward. By this I would feel comforted. It was inspiring verses like Isaiah 53:3 “He was despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” Or John 1:11-12 “He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him. But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.” Lastly, Matthew 21:42 “Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: ‘The stone which the builders rejected Has become the chief cornerstone. This was the Lord’s doing, and it is marvelous in our eyes’”.

       It amazed me how much God went through to be with His people and desiring for them to choose Him only to receive their rejection, but what Jesus does throughout rest of the bible was encouraging to me. Jesus went to the Gentiles, a people who desired to have a loving relationship with Jesus, a love rejected by the Israelites. It would be through the Gentiles that a new covenant would be established, a covenant that you and I partake of. Jesus never lost sight of who He was or what He came here to do. His life has taught me that my worth is not determined by who rejects me, it is determined by what My creator thinks of me, Psalms 139:14 says “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well”. I also learned not to change who God has made me to be; not to hate or have ill feelings towards the people that rejected me for who I am but to love them even as Christ did.

        As men we display our faith in God by waiting and ultimately finding the virtuous woman He has created for us. Though the journey may be lengthy and along the way we may be rejected, it is our faith that keeps us pushing forward even if our ego is bruised and our feelings hurt. As we continue moving forward remember that God went through the same rejection, but He did not forget His purpose and the mission that He came for. It is my hope that we will do the same as we navigate through our single season.